Anger sometimes gives a sense of satisfaction to most of us. Anger is an active emotion, it's a strong feeling of displeasure because it gives a sense of injury or insult. To be offended is a product of anger, at this point when we are offended, we are far away from dialogue and if we could be calm and composed enough to dialogue, truth, secret and hate speech could be all we say. Mathematically, it can be stated that the measure of 'anger' in man is directly proportional to its root cause. Biologically anger saps our energy, raises the blood pressure, cuts down the flow of oxygen to the brain, increases the rate of heart beat and contracts some major group of muscles. When anger pushes to the breaking point, one is prone to initiate physical or verbal fight, now this is the satisfaction it brings but at the end of it all, we get hurt emotionally or physically, could be even both in some cases. Anger unexpressed could be more harmful, so why let it burns you from the inside? For this cause we often think of fighting (physical or verbal) to be the best way we could let the adrenaline level drop. No, we will only end up brutalizing our body and mind. One David A. Bednar stated "when we believe or say we have been offended, we usually mean we feel insulted, mistreated, snubbed, or disrespected. And certainly clumsy, embarrassing, unprincipled, and mean-spirited things do occur in our interactions with other people that would allow us to take offense. However, it ultimately is impossible for another person to offend you or to offend me. Indeed, believing that another person offended us is fundamentally false. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else."
Although not everyone reacts towards the same thing that often make us feel offended. Just as Bednar said, it's all choice bound to our own violation and yeah, luckily we all see things in different perspectives. Religious view of 'anger' defines as "one being foolish" because your judgement could be impaired, you would do more or less than you really need to.
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